Okay, so I’ve mentioned a lot to those around me that I’m not interested in dating nor am I willing to even look at guys as dating material or anything like that this school year and somehow people don’t understand how that could be. If I were a freshman here…. They wouldn’t question the logic for it. They’d be like, “that’s a great idea.” Since I’m a junior, people not only question why but have told me that it’s not going to last long.
So, let’s just set the record straight and get this out of the way.
Q. Why are you doing it?
A. I want to focus on my relationship with God. As most know, I had a rough period where I didn’t want to live and now I just want to get my relationship back on track. I’m too screwed up to think about having a relationship or fantasizing about one with a guy at this point.
Q. Why a year?
A. I think it’ll be better to spend a year of Liberty on just focusing on other things than boys.
Q. You really think you’re going to last all year? Because it’s really hard….
A. That’s my goal and of course it’ll be hard, but I’m not going to fail. I know that’s when the guys you usually would want to date come around, but it helps to have your mind on something else. And for me it’s God and school.
Q. What if a guy comes up to you and tells you he likes you and you like him back?
A. First, I wouldn’t tell him I like him. That’s just walking into a trap that I myself would have set up. Second, I look at it this way, if a guy really were to do that and tell me he likes me and he really, legitimately does and I tell him to wait till the end of the year to see if i would feel that way or not… if he’s really interested, he’ll be willing to wait.
Q. When’s the last day of this?
A. After my last final.
Q. What about the guys that you’re hanging out with and spending time with alone?
A. They’re this thing called friends…. See, most people have them and some even are of the opposite sex. You know… It’s a common thing to hang out with said friends. Something like studying, coffee, or showing your support for them and cheering them on with their activities. Every time you’re seen with someone of the opposite sex doesn’t mean that you are “talking” to them or even interested in them romantically. (Sorry for the very sarcastic tone in this one… It’s just… REALLY?!?)
Q. But are you interested in any of the guys that you are spending time with?
A. Beauty of this whole one year thing… YOU’LL NEVER KNOW! Or at least I’m not going to say now. I may be attracted to someone or not, but it’s about self-control and catching yourself if you begin to think about someone in that way.
That’s it regarding that… I really don’t want people to misunderstand my actions and my motives. Really, I want to have this year free of thinking and feeling the pressure to date. This year, it’s about making friends. AND JUST THAT.
Before I go, I had a friend tell me about something she overheard in our class and I just need to say something about it… Cause seriously… Boys… *SHAKE MY HEAD*
Guys, if you don’t like a girl, don’t lead her on. I understand it makes you feel GREAT to know that there’s a girl that’s willing to try and make “moves” on you, but DANG! And another thing, YOU CAN BE GOOD-LOOKING AND HAVE A HORRIBLE PERSONALITY… AND GIRLS MAY STILL WANT TO DATE YOU, BUT UNLESS YOU CHANGE YOURSELF FROM THE INSIDE, YOU WILL ALWAYS ATTRACT THE WRONG LADIES. AND TO THOSE YOU WOULD LIKE THE ATTENTION FROM…. YOU MAY JUST BE SOMETHING NICE TO LOOK AT, BUT THEY’LL NEVER THINK OF YOU AS POSSIBLE BOYFRIEND MATERIAL.